It was a dark and stormy night. Ok, it wasn't stormy, but it was foggy. And threatening to drizzle. The night was Saturday, July 28th, 2007. The location was Osiers, the local gas station/good-place-to-get-lobster-rolls-and-steamers. The time was 7:15pm, fifteen minutes away from the last call for steamers, and just past the time that I whipped David at backgammon. Much as I wanted to propose to him in the moonlight, which was nightly becoming a full moon on our backyard aka ocean...
...the opportunity was clouded by the fog, forcing me out of the picture-perfectness of our oddly comforting smoky house (Nana smokes Merritts throughout the house, and the smell of them really completes a meal or night of cocktails). Saturday was our last night, so it was easy for me to demand steamers (steamed clams) even though Dad had been raving about his twice-thawed-store-brand pork chops on the grill for the family. Which was even better, because that meant that Dad was sure to not want to come with us. My mom and sister were madly shopping in Freeport, and Nana boycotted the pork chops with her microwavable stuffed shells. Plus, she knew of my plan, so made other dinner arrangements.
Getting to this point was a little questionable, because just two days prior, David and I drove into Damariscotta, sunburned and sweaty from 9 holes of golf (my annual gift to him...no, not the half round of golf, but my presence of course). In Damariscotta there are many shops, including a little jewelry store called Stars, in which my sister and mother and I annually wander in to daydream over unique pieces displayed behind themed glass cases the couple who owns the store finds from London and wherever else they go. There are the estate pearls, the carved mother of pearl, the royalty inspired fake gems, the birthday stones, the tiny silver baby shoes...
Diamonds are the woman owner's passion. I slowly circled the cases around the store, landing at the last case, or the...Case of Large Sparkly Rings. David took his que, put down the random Maine magazine he was reading, and walked over to ask if I liked anything. An hour later, we leared about cuts of diamonds, the bogusness of paperwork and hearts of fire or whatever, and my favorite, the Mine Cut, which was the irregular cut performed at first by minors in the mines in attempt to make a circle.
I would say this was quite a bold step for Katie and David. We'd never looked at Large Sparkly Rings before. But he was strong, and even asked questions. Dare something be around the corner?
Back to my dark and drizzling Saturday night at the gas station/clam place.
This night was the Top Secret Mission night. I waited until the end of our family vacation just in case David had a Top Secret Proposal of his own up his sleeve. But here we were, on Saturday night, with no proposal.
We drove the 5 minutes down to Osiers, which is the fishing town of South Bristol just on the other side of a swinging bridge. David could not have parked the car more carefully, with no other cars around. When we went into order, he sat down at a table to read a paper that was already at the table (aka didn't have the buy the paper).
Upstairs in Osiers are deserted picnic tables with umbrellas on an upper deck. It was really deserted because it was practically drizzling. I thought I could squeeze in my question and explanations of my thoughts on marriage before the waitress brought up our clams. But David sat with the paper inside with all of the other fishermen and local kids. And he sat. See him sitting in the window?
There he sat, looking for the article on the kid who murdered his father, who was a local pottery store owner, and a local girl classmate. He looked for anything in the Sports section. He folded and refolded the paper. Arms crossed, after having taken pictures of every angle of Osiers, and of my dream cafe that I would love too own because it is SO cute (see below) I actually tapped my foot for him to get a move on upstairs.
Once up there, David was overcome with taking pictures of a seagull.
The seagull, quite accustomed to having it's photo taken, like a raccoon in Central Park by New Yorkers who don't know to fear racoons, the seagull posed and offered different angles of its wing span.
Then David was overcome with taking pictures of the lobster boat harbor.
I finally pulled him down by his shirt to sit next to me on the picnic bench. I said:
"David. The time has come for me to tell you that I am overcome with the desire to make you mine."
David, looking right at me: "Oh, when?"
Me: "Next September."
David: "What?"
Me: "David, I have brought you here, to this smelly fish dock, to ask you if you will marry me. For real."
David died. He leaned forward, silently shaking laughing, like he does when I start to pick insane fights with him, like about how he steps out of the shower with full rivers of water running from him onto the floor because he doesn't like to lean far enough out of the shower to grab a towel to take into the shower to dry off.
David, recovering: "Are you going to get down on one knee?"
Me: "No. That's for boys."
More laughter. With his head in his hands, David said: "You're doing this all backwards! I'm supposed to do it to you!"
Me: "And I even have a gift for you!"
I pulled out the little penguin cuff links that I had been carrying around in my purse all day, and reminded him about how when we saw March of the Penguins, we learned about how those little penguins marched right into each other from across the Arctic. Granted, we shared a wall the whole time before we started dating, but it was still a journey getting to New York to even do that.
David took my gift and really liked it. He asked if he could wear them in the future, at the actual event. Of course! I said.
Me: "But you haven't given me an official answer. Are you giving me an answer?"
David: "I am not giving you an answer, because I am the one who needs to do this."
Me: "But you're not doing it, so I am."
David: "Katie, Katie, Katie. I have to be the one."
Me: "Well, I need some sort of indication of direction."
David, laughing: "Did we not just go into a jewelry store for an hour?"
Me: "Yes."
David: "Well, that's your direction."
Me: "Fine. Well, we've been up here for a long time. I think they think we left since they have not brought us our clams. Let's go down and get them."
So down we went, and I made a few declarations along the way, like about where I want to live (Maine, Charleston, Arizona, the list grows monthly), and how marriage is an exciting adventure thing. Back inside the dry restaurant, I picked up our tray of 2lbs of steamy clams and an order of mozzarella sticks and sat down at a slimy table and dug in. David, meanwhile, disappeared to his car. He came back in and asked why I was sitting inside, since I was so adamant about being outside.
Me: "Because it's over! I already did it, so we can just eat now inside and not in the drizzle."
David: "I can't keep up. You change your mind all the time. Get back outside."
With half a mozzarella stick in my mouth, we went back upstairs. When we sat down again, David looked at me and put a little box on the table. Right in between my marinara sauce and his new cuff links.
David: "THIS is my direction. It's nothing big, but so you know."
A box! I wiped the grease off my fingers and opened it. Inside were the prettiest hand blown glass earrings I'd ever seen. And hand blown glass somethings were on my list to do/get in Maine. Every time I go to Maine I have to get a little piece of blown glass. Delighted, I asked David if he knew this. "Yes!" he said. Wow. How did he pay that close of attention? Then he confessed that he did not know, but emphasized how much he knows me that he would be able to get me exactly what I want. See David's proud face, and see the blown glass earrings in the upper left:
I put on the earrings - his glee-inducing and unanticipated match to my proposal. He got them from Damariscotta earlier that day while secretly scouting a Christmas present that my Nana wanted to get for me. It was this cute little possibly new shop that has all sorts of special little things in it.
After the whole event, we did pull into a "Price Reduced!" piece of property in town that was an old firehouse. It's a real fixer upper, and is the ugliest former firehouse I've ever seen, but has a huge deck on the water and could be fixed up. With the right people. ;) Stay tuned. Apparently these proposal things are supposed to happen when I least suspect it.
The story sort of ends there, waiting for another climactic ark. I am officially still a bachelorette with a bare finger, but with pretty ears and a hited at intent. We drove back home, ate buckets of Ben and Jerry's with my Nana, caught glimpses of what my sister got in Freeport, I worried about Gerdy because earlier I had given her a raw bone of pork chops, and called it a night. We went to bed, as we did every night, to the waves hitting the prehistoric rocks about 80 feet below, and woke up to pack the car with luggage and gifts, and then pack our stomachs with fierce blueberry pancakes before driving back to New York. But do you know what? If you fall asleep to the sound of waves, and just when you are 50% awake in the morning, you actually don't hear the waves at all, until you remember that there are waves somewhere out there, and then they fade in. Totally cool.
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- A Marriage Proposal :: Backwards
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- My First Piece of Ekologic!
- How to Get an Engagement Ring if I'm the Proposer
- Brooklyn's New Indie Market Spends Night in NYC
- Dixie Chicks Documentary Shut Up and Sing :: Watch...
- Laser Hair Removal : 6th Appointment
- Mystery Jewelry Hint Dropped
- Etsy Love :: Leather Cuff Bracelet
- Top Secret Announcement: A Reverse Proposal
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I Proposed, And...
You must still stay tuned regarding the Top Secret Mission that is now out of the bag. I am batting away little work things as I muster the brain power to load photos from my...iPhone onto my computer to show you pictures of what took place in the back picnic tables of a local fishing dock's gas station/clam restaurant...
Here's what I wanted the night to look like, but this was the night before, so I had to hold the phone up above our heads, batting away fierce and hungry mosquitoes.
I've since posted. Click here.
Here's what I wanted the night to look like, but this was the night before, so I had to hold the phone up above our heads, batting away fierce and hungry mosquitoes.
I've since posted. Click here.
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My First Piece of Ekologic!
I can't keep up with life, or the USPS! The post office is whizzing orders to me, even from Scotland (David's present)! Ekologic was having a 30% off sale and just had to email me about it, so I visited the site, just to take a peek, and clicked on this! I didn't think I'd get this dress before my trip to Maine, but sure enough, in today's mail, about 3 days after I placed the order, it has arrived. Maybe I will do my top secret mission in it? Hmm. The plot thickens. It is quite mini, by the way. If you are an 8 or 10, you could get the Large and it would still look good. The Medium, on me, wants to creep up. But it's got a lot of leg to climb.
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shopping from my inbox
How to Get an Engagement Ring if I'm the Proposer
How will this work? I'm a girl that really does want a ring. My godfather prefers paying for downpayments on houses, but my pieces of jewelry do mean something to me. I'm just not sure how to orchestrate this reversal. Presuming, of course, that he says yes to my big question...
I have the answer to the question. Click here.
I have the answer to the question. Click here.
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Brooklyn's New Indie Market Spends Night in NYC
I am officially telling you about this new indie designer market in Brooklyn - more reasons to go shopping in Brooklyn! It is the love child of Kathy Malone of the label fofolle who has dreamed of bringing a space for new designers to show off their creations. And boy did she hit a home run!
Brooklyn Indie Market is the only place you will find Rocks and Salt, the designers of my favorite hat in pink plaid linen. People have emailed before about where to find them, and this is it.
Katie James is a member of this inspiring group, but I've been sucked into the website world now that I've left my day job (funny how that happens), so we had to freeze the accessories production budget to focus on developing one thing at a time, and developing it well.
You will find lots of unique goodies. Brooklyn Indie Market is on Smith Street every weekend from now to December. Here's how to get there, complete with map.
If you are a Manhattenite, Brooklyn Indie Market is coming to you on Wednesday, July 18th! Brooklyn Indie Market has paired up with Planned Parenthood of New York City (PPNYC) to bring you the 3rd Annual Summer, Sex and Spirits - a night of cheap cocktails and exclusive shopping at the Sugar Lounge!
Sexy Highlights:
WHERE: Sugar Lounge, 311 Church Street (between Walker and Lispenard Streets)
WHEN: Wednesday, July 18 from 5-8 pm
TICKETS: $20. A portion of the evening's sales and ticket proceeds go to Planned Parenthood of New York City
WHY: (from PPNYC) "For over 90 years, PPNYC has been a beacon of hope for the thousands of women, teens, and families who rely on us for essential reproductive health care, innovative educational programs and effective advocacy. This event helps raise support our work providing critical information, skills, and care to all individuals, regardless of age, income, or circumstance. To buy tickets contact: PPNYC Special Events Office at 212.274.7260. Tickets also available at the door (cash only at the door)."
I'm going to go down there. Let's see how many Mistas I can pull with me? Come on, girls! Besides, one of the partners of Brooklyn Indie Market, Johanna Resinkoff of DaisyHead Designs is an expert QuickBooks smarty pants in her spare time, so I'm bringing a list of questions that I will slyly ask her because I've spent all of Saturday and Sunday in the lovely database life of QuickBooks...
Brooklyn Indie Market is the only place you will find Rocks and Salt, the designers of my favorite hat in pink plaid linen. People have emailed before about where to find them, and this is it.
Katie James is a member of this inspiring group, but I've been sucked into the website world now that I've left my day job (funny how that happens), so we had to freeze the accessories production budget to focus on developing one thing at a time, and developing it well.
You will find lots of unique goodies. Brooklyn Indie Market is on Smith Street every weekend from now to December. Here's how to get there, complete with map.
If you are a Manhattenite, Brooklyn Indie Market is coming to you on Wednesday, July 18th! Brooklyn Indie Market has paired up with Planned Parenthood of New York City (PPNYC) to bring you the 3rd Annual Summer, Sex and Spirits - a night of cheap cocktails and exclusive shopping at the Sugar Lounge!
Sexy Highlights:
- 1/2 price sangria pitchers
- $4 drink specials including wine, beer, and mixed drinks
- live DJ
- mystery prize and raffle (love those, especially when your chances are good, as they are this night)
WHERE: Sugar Lounge, 311 Church Street (between Walker and Lispenard Streets)
WHEN: Wednesday, July 18 from 5-8 pm
TICKETS: $20. A portion of the evening's sales and ticket proceeds go to Planned Parenthood of New York City
WHY: (from PPNYC) "For over 90 years, PPNYC has been a beacon of hope for the thousands of women, teens, and families who rely on us for essential reproductive health care, innovative educational programs and effective advocacy. This event helps raise support our work providing critical information, skills, and care to all individuals, regardless of age, income, or circumstance. To buy tickets contact: PPNYC Special Events Office at 212.274.7260. Tickets also available at the door (cash only at the door)."
I'm going to go down there. Let's see how many Mistas I can pull with me? Come on, girls! Besides, one of the partners of Brooklyn Indie Market, Johanna Resinkoff of DaisyHead Designs is an expert QuickBooks smarty pants in her spare time, so I'm bringing a list of questions that I will slyly ask her because I've spent all of Saturday and Sunday in the lovely database life of QuickBooks...
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Markets
Dixie Chicks Documentary Shut Up and Sing :: Watch it.
Really. Very. Good.
Just finished watching Shut Up and Sing from Netflix. Not only are they incredibly inspiring women, but they are more inspiring now. To see how they stuck together, with families and dreams for their careers, and they just stuck to their convictions to continue on and make music.
I'm buying their new album, Taking the Long Way, on iTunes. I only have Wide Open Spaces, which I oddly love cleaning the house to. Especially a very sad song, the one about the husband who leaves his family. Weird how that song can just make me do an even better job of dusting.
There are a few amazing points in Shut Up and Sing, especially at the beginning of the documentary, just after Natalie said the statement about being ashamed that Bush is from Texas, a brand manager (not band manager) for Lipton or some sponsor is talking to them about letting it blow over, that Bush's approval rating was at an all time high, that the war was going well, and that everything will be fine with the rebuilding starts of Iraq. Wow.
Just finished watching Shut Up and Sing from Netflix. Not only are they incredibly inspiring women, but they are more inspiring now. To see how they stuck together, with families and dreams for their careers, and they just stuck to their convictions to continue on and make music.
I'm buying their new album, Taking the Long Way, on iTunes. I only have Wide Open Spaces, which I oddly love cleaning the house to. Especially a very sad song, the one about the husband who leaves his family. Weird how that song can just make me do an even better job of dusting.
There are a few amazing points in Shut Up and Sing, especially at the beginning of the documentary, just after Natalie said the statement about being ashamed that Bush is from Texas, a brand manager (not band manager) for Lipton or some sponsor is talking to them about letting it blow over, that Bush's approval rating was at an all time high, that the war was going well, and that everything will be fine with the rebuilding starts of Iraq. Wow.
Laser Hair Removal : 6th Appointment
I had the 6th appointment a few weeks ago. I waited to post so that I could study a few rounds of shaving to see how my legs are doing. The nutshell version: the hairs on my thighs are tough, tough little buggers. They will not die. They are weakening. The bikini and love trail are disappearing. I have only stragglers. And on a new part of my bikini (I decided late in the game to laser more of the area) it is showing batchy-ness, which means that there are circles of no growth. So, bikini and love trail are taking to the laser more effectively, and the legs are taking longer.
Now, as I've stated, my technicians are very nice. I've had 3 of them, and there is one that I get frequently and we always like to catch up. As nice as they are, for my 6th appointment, I was upset. I was actually late to my appointment, as I frequently am and have to reschedule half of my appointment, but I still went in frustrated. At my American Laser Center office, they like for you to shave, or else charge you extra for dry shaving with a cheap Bic (ouch and razor burn). But, I was not going to pay, as I wanted the technician to see for herself, with her expert eyes, on how my leg hair is doing. The technician took a picture, as she usually does, and asked if I was pleased. I flatly said NO. It's been too long, I said. She said that she doesn't lie to her patients, and it can take 8 or 10 rounds for people. Even though she was probably upset with me for being late, she was visibly concerned that I was unsatisfied. To be fair, I think she and definitely the office manager who I had a consultation with and signed me up, did imply that the hair would be gone in 6 rounds. But with the 2 years of free appointments to clean up. I should have known that the 2 years were there for a reason. But, everyone loses the hair at different speeds.
So. Did the 6th round affect my leg hair? It really did. The hair is growing more slowly still, and not as prickly. I compare it to my lower leg that has not had any laser treatments. My leg hair is proving stubborn. But that is why I got it lasered in the first place. I didn't just invest in laser hair removal as a cosmetic luxury. I invested because I get ingrowns on my bikini which are painful and ugly; because my thigh hair is so prickly and irritating on my skin, especially in the summer; because I have good legs but don't show them in the summer because of these stated reasons.
Am I happy? Am I glad I invested? Yes. It is so hot here in NYC, and finally I am wearing short shorts. The shortest shorts I've probably ever worn. Short shorts that I would even go out running in, when they could pass for boy-shorts, if you know what I mean. I am not getting ingrowns. My bikini and love trail are almost gone. My leg hair is on the retreat, but is softer. I am not paranoid about ugly, prickly hair that I forgot to shave when I put shorts on.
Saving graces or added bonuses? When my technicians ask me in one appointment if I'm losing weight, and in another appointment if I'm a runner because my back legs are so "toned." If only my stomach and non-existent abs could have a similar affect on people!
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #7 for pics of technicians
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #6
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #5.5 for Bikini
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #5
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #4
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #3.5
Laser Hair Removal :: The Second Zap
Laser Hair Removal :: The First Followup
Laser Hair Removal :: The First Zap
Laser Hair Removal :: War of My Legs Part 1
Disclaimer: FashionMista, nor its author, are qualified to give medical advice and cannot be held responsible for anything that may occur. Should you have a medical concern, please consult your physician.
Now, as I've stated, my technicians are very nice. I've had 3 of them, and there is one that I get frequently and we always like to catch up. As nice as they are, for my 6th appointment, I was upset. I was actually late to my appointment, as I frequently am and have to reschedule half of my appointment, but I still went in frustrated. At my American Laser Center office, they like for you to shave, or else charge you extra for dry shaving with a cheap Bic (ouch and razor burn). But, I was not going to pay, as I wanted the technician to see for herself, with her expert eyes, on how my leg hair is doing. The technician took a picture, as she usually does, and asked if I was pleased. I flatly said NO. It's been too long, I said. She said that she doesn't lie to her patients, and it can take 8 or 10 rounds for people. Even though she was probably upset with me for being late, she was visibly concerned that I was unsatisfied. To be fair, I think she and definitely the office manager who I had a consultation with and signed me up, did imply that the hair would be gone in 6 rounds. But with the 2 years of free appointments to clean up. I should have known that the 2 years were there for a reason. But, everyone loses the hair at different speeds.
So. Did the 6th round affect my leg hair? It really did. The hair is growing more slowly still, and not as prickly. I compare it to my lower leg that has not had any laser treatments. My leg hair is proving stubborn. But that is why I got it lasered in the first place. I didn't just invest in laser hair removal as a cosmetic luxury. I invested because I get ingrowns on my bikini which are painful and ugly; because my thigh hair is so prickly and irritating on my skin, especially in the summer; because I have good legs but don't show them in the summer because of these stated reasons.
Am I happy? Am I glad I invested? Yes. It is so hot here in NYC, and finally I am wearing short shorts. The shortest shorts I've probably ever worn. Short shorts that I would even go out running in, when they could pass for boy-shorts, if you know what I mean. I am not getting ingrowns. My bikini and love trail are almost gone. My leg hair is on the retreat, but is softer. I am not paranoid about ugly, prickly hair that I forgot to shave when I put shorts on.
Saving graces or added bonuses? When my technicians ask me in one appointment if I'm losing weight, and in another appointment if I'm a runner because my back legs are so "toned." If only my stomach and non-existent abs could have a similar affect on people!
Laser Progress Reports
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #8Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #7 for pics of technicians
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #6
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #5.5 for Bikini
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #5
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #4
Laser Hair Removal :: Appointment #3.5
Laser Hair Removal :: The Second Zap
Laser Hair Removal :: The First Followup
Laser Hair Removal :: The First Zap
Laser Hair Removal :: War of My Legs Part 1
Disclaimer: FashionMista, nor its author, are qualified to give medical advice and cannot be held responsible for anything that may occur. Should you have a medical concern, please consult your physician.
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Mystery Jewelry Hint Dropped
Operation Top Secret is going as planned. I talked to David this morning, who is back in New Haven, CT to wrap out Indiana Jones 4. He was still in bed, which is a luxury for him because he's had to get up at 4am or so and talk to about 4 people at once all day. So I took the groggy opportunity to ask him if he'd gotten me any big pieces of jewelry. Oh, you need a background. You see, I want my ring designed, and through my friend Kelly Bear Mista, I have found a jewelry designer on the lower east side that looks like they can make all kinds of neat things. So here's how I did it:
Me: "David...?"
David: "Yes Katie James..."
Me: "What would you say is the biggest piece of jewelry you have ever gotten for me."
David: "Well...(sound of him rolling over) that's a loaded question."
Me: "Right. Would you say it was the silver bracelet from Tiffany's 3 Christmases ago? Or the bribe earrings from New Haven? Or would you say you have something but you haven't bought it yet."
David: "That's a big question, Katie James."
Me: "I know. Well, I'm just asking because I would say that for my next piece of jewelry, I would want it to be designed. I think that would be really fun. And I have found just the designer, on the lower east side. So, before you every get anything else, like earrings or something, I would say, that I would say, let's go to downtown and have some fun."
David: "Ok, well that's fair enough. Good to know. Very good to know."
Now. The last time I dropped a hint about a ring (I was already engaged with no ring...a silly college experiment) I declared in a parking lot after looking at a jewelry counter that I hated gold and diamonds. The guy nearly fell over. I later found out that is exactly what he had bought for me from an estate sale. Oops. Now that I've matured, that statement is no longer true. Especially now that there is a designer in the realm of possibilities.
Me: "David...?"
David: "Yes Katie James..."
Me: "What would you say is the biggest piece of jewelry you have ever gotten for me."
David: "Well...(sound of him rolling over) that's a loaded question."
Me: "Right. Would you say it was the silver bracelet from Tiffany's 3 Christmases ago? Or the bribe earrings from New Haven? Or would you say you have something but you haven't bought it yet."
David: "That's a big question, Katie James."
Me: "I know. Well, I'm just asking because I would say that for my next piece of jewelry, I would want it to be designed. I think that would be really fun. And I have found just the designer, on the lower east side. So, before you every get anything else, like earrings or something, I would say, that I would say, let's go to downtown and have some fun."
David: "Ok, well that's fair enough. Good to know. Very good to know."
Now. The last time I dropped a hint about a ring (I was already engaged with no ring...a silly college experiment) I declared in a parking lot after looking at a jewelry counter that I hated gold and diamonds. The guy nearly fell over. I later found out that is exactly what he had bought for me from an estate sale. Oops. Now that I've matured, that statement is no longer true. Especially now that there is a designer in the realm of possibilities.
Etsy Love :: Leather Cuff Bracelet
Can we talk about this? How cool is this leather cuff bracelet from GreenBelts? I'm lounging on top of my "new" poly-filled puffy comforter that I lifted from my Mom's house, and am drinking a glass of my uncle's yummy new wine, the Australian Barossa Jack (I mean that his company, Vintage Point, represents it...and it is so hard to stop drinking). I'm searching for a silver man bracelet on Etsy, but came across this:
I'm buying it. But the search for the silver man bracelet continues. Why? No reason in particular..
But quickly, I have randomly found these penguin cufflinks after a search for "silver men" because "silver man bracelet" did not yeild such hot results on Etsy.com. I think I will get these because David and I saw March of the Penguins together in Maine, and also maybe in New York. This could be a symbolic gift, right? These are made in and shipped from Edinburgh, so I'd better hurry.
I'm buying it. But the search for the silver man bracelet continues. Why? No reason in particular..
But quickly, I have randomly found these penguin cufflinks after a search for "silver men" because "silver man bracelet" did not yeild such hot results on Etsy.com. I think I will get these because David and I saw March of the Penguins together in Maine, and also maybe in New York. This could be a symbolic gift, right? These are made in and shipped from Edinburgh, so I'd better hurry.
Top Secret Announcement: A Reverse Proposal
Hello everyone. If you are a sister or brother-in-law of David's, you might want to stop reading. Or, you can read, but you must now lock your lips and throw away the key until August. And if you are a friend of David's, you must keep total silence. Total silence. Also, from time to time, this post will be hidden back in the archives of the blog so that a curious David does not see it. He normally does not read the blog, but just in case he misses me while filming, and he randomly checks it, that would be bad.
Last Sunday at brunch at Good Enough to Eat with my two girlfriends, Wedding Mista (currently planning her own wedding), and Flapper Mista (she's clearly happily lived in another era), without intending it, we discussed my woes of waiting. Waiting for the big M question from David. And I am not a good waiter.
David and I have been dating for over 3 years, and living together for I guess 1.5 years, or 2. We knew each other before that, since we were neighbors in our building. It took him almost a year to officially ask me out, but I was ending things with someone else for a bit of that. He choose our date to a pizza place to tell me, on which he waited until the very end when he was "dropping me off." I was in the elevator to go up to my new apartment on the 9th floor, and he held the elevator button so that the doors would stay open. It was then that he told me he had grown "smitten" over time, and he just needed to tell me how he felt. He invited me in for water to further discuss, and I accepted.
I was newly single, so I did declare that I could not be an official girlfriend, but later on, I would be. He claims he waited so long because he knew I was moving from the 4th floor to the 9th floor, and in case we didn't work out, at least we wouldn't be sharing a wall. Needless to say, a year later, after I accepted his "smitten" confession, I invited him to move up into my gloriously lit apartment with lots of natural light. My reasoning: an elevator is not worth $1700 of New York rent.
David is "an older man." Sexy, isn't it? So wise. He's been through crazy girlfriends before, myself included, and deals quite well with whatever I have to say, usually. So it's not like we've been dating since high school. And it's not like I'm 33 and he's 34 and we're still evaluating boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm 30 and he's...older. :) According to him, we are "still in Courtship" (when he said that, I said: "Really!? Then I need more STUFF!"). His married friends have years of dating the person under their belts. Like 6 or 9. And I just don't wait that long.
So, after discussing it and getting permission from my entire family (Grampa Jim, Nana, Mom, (Dad doesn't know yet) Godfather Oz, Uncle Bill, my sister, her friend (my adopted sister) Gene, Little T-Bird Mista, New Mom Mista, Dental Mista), I have made a decision: I am going to propose to David. This plan was hatched over that brunch I spoke of earlier. We decided that it just might work. Firstly, I needed family permission, since I thought they were quite conservative (all Ohio Republicans). I have since learned, that my Nana "proposed to all of them" (oh dear), and New Mom Mista did it to her wonderful husband, which he then matched. My grandfather offers his full support because he thinks David is such a "swell guy" and my Godfather offered to come up to New York with a shotgun (he lives on a farm).
So. I had wished that David would pop the question to me during our summer trip to Maine with my family. He loves it there, and has been asking me repeatedly about the dates of when we are going there. This made me suspect. However, he is so deeply involved with the film shooting in New Haven (which just made NPR yesterday), that I truly think he wants to go there for a vacation only.
So. The plan is to leave a love trail of thoughtful notes explaining my thoughts on marriage, on us, on new adventures, and all of that mushy stuff. Nana says I should be on one of huge rocks behind our house, which means I would have to do it in the daylight so that we both don't kill ourselves rock climbing. The location is still under consideration, but it will be outside somewhere.
His answer will instigate one of two paths (or maybe both, who knows):
Yes: maybe we'll pursue moving to a shore town outside of New York City, but still have access by train.
No, or weird hesitation: I will move to Charleston, SC, my college town. It's very artsy there, and a good developing community for young minds who start businesses. Heck, I'd love to go there in both circumstances, so we'll see.
So. Stay tuned to this blog for further developments. This would happen at the end of July. So I don't have that long. I've known the answer for some time, so it's just a matter of when.
Note from the future: I've done it. Click here for the play by play.
Last Sunday at brunch at Good Enough to Eat with my two girlfriends, Wedding Mista (currently planning her own wedding), and Flapper Mista (she's clearly happily lived in another era), without intending it, we discussed my woes of waiting. Waiting for the big M question from David. And I am not a good waiter.
David and I have been dating for over 3 years, and living together for I guess 1.5 years, or 2. We knew each other before that, since we were neighbors in our building. It took him almost a year to officially ask me out, but I was ending things with someone else for a bit of that. He choose our date to a pizza place to tell me, on which he waited until the very end when he was "dropping me off." I was in the elevator to go up to my new apartment on the 9th floor, and he held the elevator button so that the doors would stay open. It was then that he told me he had grown "smitten" over time, and he just needed to tell me how he felt. He invited me in for water to further discuss, and I accepted.
I was newly single, so I did declare that I could not be an official girlfriend, but later on, I would be. He claims he waited so long because he knew I was moving from the 4th floor to the 9th floor, and in case we didn't work out, at least we wouldn't be sharing a wall. Needless to say, a year later, after I accepted his "smitten" confession, I invited him to move up into my gloriously lit apartment with lots of natural light. My reasoning: an elevator is not worth $1700 of New York rent.
David is "an older man." Sexy, isn't it? So wise. He's been through crazy girlfriends before, myself included, and deals quite well with whatever I have to say, usually. So it's not like we've been dating since high school. And it's not like I'm 33 and he's 34 and we're still evaluating boyfriends and girlfriends. I'm 30 and he's...older. :) According to him, we are "still in Courtship" (when he said that, I said: "Really!? Then I need more STUFF!"). His married friends have years of dating the person under their belts. Like 6 or 9. And I just don't wait that long.
So, after discussing it and getting permission from my entire family (Grampa Jim, Nana, Mom, (Dad doesn't know yet) Godfather Oz, Uncle Bill, my sister, her friend (my adopted sister) Gene, Little T-Bird Mista, New Mom Mista, Dental Mista), I have made a decision: I am going to propose to David. This plan was hatched over that brunch I spoke of earlier. We decided that it just might work. Firstly, I needed family permission, since I thought they were quite conservative (all Ohio Republicans). I have since learned, that my Nana "proposed to all of them" (oh dear), and New Mom Mista did it to her wonderful husband, which he then matched. My grandfather offers his full support because he thinks David is such a "swell guy" and my Godfather offered to come up to New York with a shotgun (he lives on a farm).
So. I had wished that David would pop the question to me during our summer trip to Maine with my family. He loves it there, and has been asking me repeatedly about the dates of when we are going there. This made me suspect. However, he is so deeply involved with the film shooting in New Haven (which just made NPR yesterday), that I truly think he wants to go there for a vacation only.
So. The plan is to leave a love trail of thoughtful notes explaining my thoughts on marriage, on us, on new adventures, and all of that mushy stuff. Nana says I should be on one of huge rocks behind our house, which means I would have to do it in the daylight so that we both don't kill ourselves rock climbing. The location is still under consideration, but it will be outside somewhere.
His answer will instigate one of two paths (or maybe both, who knows):
Yes: maybe we'll pursue moving to a shore town outside of New York City, but still have access by train.
No, or weird hesitation: I will move to Charleston, SC, my college town. It's very artsy there, and a good developing community for young minds who start businesses. Heck, I'd love to go there in both circumstances, so we'll see.
So. Stay tuned to this blog for further developments. This would happen at the end of July. So I don't have that long. I've known the answer for some time, so it's just a matter of when.
Note from the future: I've done it. Click here for the play by play.
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Wedding in Cleveland :: Teej McBrideGroom
My brother got married. My brother got married! And they are driving to their honeymoon after setting up and taking down their entire wedding, which included setting up and taking down folding chairs and tables, splicing Chinese lanterns across a Gatsby-ish lawn, arranging and placing floral center pieces, scattering bags of mother-of-the-bride's dried roses down the wedding isle, picking up and dropping off out of town bridal party members, and more and more and more.
Their theme was Blue Moon (for the actual blue moon on Saturday night) and their wedding song My Funny Valentine sung by a sultry jazz singer from London who was the maid of honor. In fact, my own brother sang a song of his own to his bride - We've Only Just Begun, by the Carpenters - of which he actually did quite well! It was all quite a performance under many electric blue moons that were the Chinese lanterns that my brother had set up earlier that day.
The self-proclaimed McBrideGroom at their Bachelor/Bachelorette party at NightTown, sharing a love bite over a burger. We had burgers, not strippers.
At the rehearsal dinner, TJ and Lily were doing Lily's patented dance move from her last show, SPLIT.
Teej McBrideGroom and his trusty assistant/college friend planning how they would hang the Chinese lanterns that would all look like blue moons.
Lily aka The Bride in her Gatsby backyard of Hawken school, which is where this wedding took place.
The band practicing, which consisted of the bride's dad, brother, maid of honor, and a mystery piano player who I do not know at this minute.
The maid of honor who also provided the vocals for the band later on. Lily's dress was a stiff and crinkled fabric that I just don't know the name of. Chime in in Comments if you do. So pretty. Kept its shape all night.
The Groomsmen in an attempted GQ pose.
Shoes and yellow socks of the bride and groom.
The ladies.
The granddaughters of my grampa. Girls are in charge in this family. This is the James of Katie James. All of the bright dresses in the middle are my grandmother's Lily dresses (now vintage) that the girls had fitted so that they could bring Grandy to the wedding.
The band tuning everything before entertaining everyone.
Teej McBridGroom dancing with my sister, a bridesmaid.
TJ and Lily taking a moment to sit and enjoy the music and their wedding.
The time now finds me still in Cleveland, choosing to stay in the breezes and work from here. It's also a test to see how I can do being "in the country," and I must admit, I grew a little antsy at 6:00pm when no one who lived within 15 minutes could see a movie who was not otherwise engaged in baby baths and other things. Highlights from the trip, and what people do in "the country" (unless you live in Brooklyn):
Their theme was Blue Moon (for the actual blue moon on Saturday night) and their wedding song My Funny Valentine sung by a sultry jazz singer from London who was the maid of honor. In fact, my own brother sang a song of his own to his bride - We've Only Just Begun, by the Carpenters - of which he actually did quite well! It was all quite a performance under many electric blue moons that were the Chinese lanterns that my brother had set up earlier that day.
The self-proclaimed McBrideGroom at their Bachelor/Bachelorette party at NightTown, sharing a love bite over a burger. We had burgers, not strippers.
At the rehearsal dinner, TJ and Lily were doing Lily's patented dance move from her last show, SPLIT.
Teej McBrideGroom and his trusty assistant/college friend planning how they would hang the Chinese lanterns that would all look like blue moons.
Lily aka The Bride in her Gatsby backyard of Hawken school, which is where this wedding took place.
The band practicing, which consisted of the bride's dad, brother, maid of honor, and a mystery piano player who I do not know at this minute.
The maid of honor who also provided the vocals for the band later on. Lily's dress was a stiff and crinkled fabric that I just don't know the name of. Chime in in Comments if you do. So pretty. Kept its shape all night.
The Groomsmen in an attempted GQ pose.
Shoes and yellow socks of the bride and groom.
The ladies.
The granddaughters of my grampa. Girls are in charge in this family. This is the James of Katie James. All of the bright dresses in the middle are my grandmother's Lily dresses (now vintage) that the girls had fitted so that they could bring Grandy to the wedding.
The band tuning everything before entertaining everyone.
Teej McBridGroom dancing with my sister, a bridesmaid.
TJ and Lily taking a moment to sit and enjoy the music and their wedding.
The time now finds me still in Cleveland, choosing to stay in the breezes and work from here. It's also a test to see how I can do being "in the country," and I must admit, I grew a little antsy at 6:00pm when no one who lived within 15 minutes could see a movie who was not otherwise engaged in baby baths and other things. Highlights from the trip, and what people do in "the country" (unless you live in Brooklyn):
- Watering flowers in the garden (I've been wanting to say: "I've been working in the garden" for SO long now!)
- Itching sun poisoning because it's been so long since my skin has been kissed by the sun
- Sunning my right arm because my left arm is the most exposed when Gerdy and I take drives to weddings or to see the Apple iPhone
- Investigating the Movie section of iTunes because my mom fired her cable and I only thought of Blockbuster just now (I'm so dependent on Netflix) but I don't think we have a Blockbuster membership anymore
- Taking walks with Gerdy and Bailey's Irish Cream. It was either that or drive into town for chocolate ice-cream at the local ice-cream parlor, The Popcorn Shop (oh lord, please ignore the pictures of George Bush visiting the shop on there)
- Going out to dinner before 8:30pm because that's when things close, apparently, on Sundays
- Hosing Gerdy off from her daily, stinky mud baths
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